The pain will not go away by getting angry or bitter, it will go away when you learn to accept life’s challenges with grace and ease.
If a moment of anger can be extremely destructive, it is equally true that a moment of heartfelt love or compassion can be tremendously constructive.
-Geshe Sonam Rinchen, How Karma Works
Whatever is begun in anger, ends in shame.
A carpenter went home after shutting down his workshop. A snake entered his workshop.
The snake was hungry and hoped to find its supper lurking somewhere within. It slithered from one end to another and accidentally bumped into a double-edged metal axe and got very slightly injured.
In anger and seeking revenge, the snake bit the axe with full force. What could a bite do to a metallic axe? Instead the cobra’s mouth started bleeding. Out of fury and arrogance, the cobra tried its best to strangle and kill the object that was causing it pain by wrapping itself very tightly around the blades.
The next day when the carpenter opened the workshop, he found a seriously cut, dead cobra wrapped around the axe blades. The cobra died not because of someone else’s fault but faced these consequences merely because of its own anger and wrath.
Sometimes when angry, we try to cause harm to others but as time passes by, we realize that we have caused more harm to ourselves. For a happy life, it’s best we should learn to ignore and overlook some things, people, incidents, affairs and matters.
It is not necessary that we show a reaction to everything. Step back and ask yourself if the matter is really worth responding or reacting to.
Anger is an acid which can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.
Don’t raise your voice, improve your argument.